ABOUT ALLY
PRINCIPLE #1
Jealousy is the single most misunderstood & underutilized tool for building deeper trust and intimacy.
PRINCIPLE #2
We weren't given the tools and skills we need to build the relationships we want and deserve.
PRINCIPLE #3
If we all build better relationships that last longer, we will have a better world that lasts longer.
PRINCIPLE #4
If you're in a couple, you're already in a threesome: there's you, your partner, and the relationship.
Hi there!
I'M ALLY ISEMAN.
I'm an internationally certified relationship coach, award-winning content educator, author, and the Founder of Passport 2 Pleasure. In addition to holding various advisory roles within the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, I've been a speaker, erotic event producer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. I regularly share my knowledge and insights on podcasts, at live events, through my written and video content, as a featured subject matter expert everywhere from The New York Times to LADbible, Cosmopolitan to AskMen, and more, and as a contributing writer for the leading industry publication Sexual Health Magazine as well as brands like pjur, Arya, and afterglow. As a certified consent and communication specialist and NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), I use inclusive relationship design to teach couples the tools and skills they need to build the relationships they want and deserve. Whether you want to open up your relationship to include other people, explore play parties together, or you just want to open up more authentically to each other about your kinks and curiosities, I can help you open up without blowing up!
MY RELATION-trip
After too long a tenure as a straight serial monogamist—jumping from one approximately 2 year relationship to the next with about the same amount of time (read: not much) between each, I saw the pattern and—nerd that I am—changed some variables. I wanted to explore. When I tried to open up what ultimately became my last monogamous relationship—without any of the skills or knowledge needed to do so—it blew up in our faces. It hurt but it also showed me this was real, and something I needed to explore, but this time on my own—I didn’t want any more emotional casualties on my conscience.
I got on the apps—this was back in 2016 when there were only a few and none in the mainstream geared towards alternative dating and relationship styles—but I started checking off a lot of experiences I was curious to have. One of which was attending one of “those parties” I thought I knew about from films like Eyes Wide Shut. One fateful afternoon fling to lead to my first invitation. It wasn’t until I stepped into my first curated play party—equal parts sensual, safe, and subversive—that I realized how transformational erotic spaces can be.
After a decade in this space personally and stepping into leadership roles to help build and grow multiple communities within it, I found myself getting regularly approached for support and advice. Both by couples looking to navigate the world of play and open relationships, and individuals who wanted more enriching experiences in their monogamous partnerships. These environments seemed to feel to many like a vacation from reality—allowing them to strip away their inhibitions and play. Yet when it came time for that same exploration inward to deepen the bonds of their relationships—both to themselves and their partners—it was met with fear and retraction.
Passport 2 Pleasure was born out of the realization that relationships aren’t a destination we arrive at, but are rather an ongoing conversation, with ourselves and each other. I saw the parallel: that sexual and relational wellness and the freedom that travel and novel adventure provide, belong together. I wanted to create a map—not of locations, but of experiences—for people ready to explore the world and themselves, without shame or apology: the roadmap for their ultimate relation-trip. Now I help couples and individuals around the world collect stamps on their passport to pleasure!
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"Ally just gets it. Her containers are safe and empathetic at their core. She is a wealth of knowledge, but more than that, she pours her heart into what she does."
J.C., monogamish
"When I am in need of insight into a conflict regarding my partnerships, Ally leans in and really listens. Her responses are thoughtful and she takes my personality traits into account, which is a rare find in this space where boilerplate answers tend to be the norm."
Jessica, poly
